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RAINBOW GIFTING: WEDDINGS

“The ideal gift communicates the appropriate and desired message about both the giver and the receiver.”
Although gay and lesbian couples have the same wedding gift needs and desires as do more traditional couples, there are ways to add more thoughtfulness and pleasure to your gift giving , while at the same time often spending less time and money.
Couple Considerations:

  • Recognize that the couple may have been living together for many years and thus have no need for many of the basic household items usually given at showers and weddings. However, they may be interested in adding to or replacing pieces of their crystal or silver.
  • Realize that many rainbow weddings are not planned months in advance ( including invitations and gift registries) because the couple has waited years to become married and wish to be a part of the joy surrounding the recent legality of rainbow marriage in their state.
  • Appreciate that couples may prefer gifts that recognize/celebrate/contribute to gay pride .
  • If possible, consider the entire family when selecting the gift(s), including children and pets.

Rainbow Register:
Some suggestions for ways to give your gifts that special rainbow aura:

  • Select same-sex gifts which show both pride in each other and in the relationship, ie set of two teddy bears dressed as brides or as grooms; his/his or hers/hers monogrammed towels, sheets, pillows, aprons, or crystal; matching cufflinks with new combined monogram; game such as Our Family, a board game which highlights the contributions of GLBT-folk throughout history; rings or other jewelry with interlocking Venus symbols. Check out the internet for many other gay and lesbian themed items.
  • Cater to their sensual side with silk sheets, matching PJ’s and slippers with monograms, aromatherapy, set of DVD’s, foot massages, a spa package, gifts of buffed metal or leather.
  • Relate gift to their special interests by giving a Netflix subscription; workout or sports equipment; Bose speakers; extra stemware for entertaining; movie gift cards to their favorite foreign film theatre along with a gift certificate to the coffee shop next door; tickets to a concert, play, opera or a museum membership; over-the-top new kitchen equipment for making fancy desserts or special cookware.
  • Give something which is significant to their relationship, such as a gift package or gift card from the place where they first met, whether Starbucks, Macy’s, Barney’s NY, Barnes and Noble, the local bar…; a bottle or case of their favorite wine or rum (Mt. Gay?); a framed photo or painting of the two of them now–or as young children; reminders of their trips to Disney Land/World; a silver or crystal replica of the wedding invitation; a picnic basket outfitted for two to be used when they go to concerts in the park.
  • Choose to make your gift special by giving a monogrammed and dated leather or satin guest book or wedding album; voucher for a weekend stay at a B & B; kitchen appliance or utensils along with a gift certificate from Whole Foods; a monogrammed decanter and their favorite Scotch; a set of their favorite CD’s, show, or music in a special box; leather bound book of their favorite poetry; compiled scrapbook of photos and handwritten messages from family and friends; video tape of special greetings from family or friends who cannot attend the festivities.
  • Make your gift choice count by donating to a charity in the couple’s honor; selecting a gift from the gift registries which donate 10% back to the gay or lesbian charity of your choice; plant a marriage tree or give plants or shrubs for their yard (or gift certificate); selecting a gift which is environmentally friendly.

Remember that the well-selected gift, given in the right spirit, makes the giver into a receiver, too.

 

 

Same Sex Wedding Gifts!

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Dawn Bryan on FOX CT on Wedding Toasts

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The Inviting Invitation

The right wording for your wedding invitation means everything. Not only does it convey much more than practical information, it also expresses your desire to share this special celebration with the recipients. Upon opening your invitation, your guests will know whether the occasion is formal or informal, religious or secular, same-sex or hetero-sexual, local or far away. In addition, the size, material (usually paper), stationery technique (engraving, letterhead printing, thermographic printing, embossing, laser print, calligraphy), font, design and color, and information given—all combine to reveal the nature and character of your upcoming celebration. You can look online to design and print out your own invitations.

Invitations, Paper and Thread Studio

Here are some common forms with appropriate wedding wording etiquette.

  • Save the Date Cards: These can be especially helpful for guests when you are planning a destination wedding or a wedding around a holiday when advanced travel planning may be needed.
  • Traditional Formal Invitations: Names of invitees are usually handwritten within the invitation itself. This may include a separate reception card, ceremony card (seldom), and/or RSVP card.
  • Semi-formal/Informal Invitations: Same information in a less formal, more intimate manner. Paper, colors, and design are usually selected to reflect the couple’s personal style. For an intimate wedding of family and close friends, handwritten  invitations are suitable and often written by the couple or their family members.
  • Non-traditional Invitations: The increasing popularity of non-traditional celebrations of love, unions, and commitment ceremonies has generated interest in more creative invitations. Original wedding themes from culinary to vintage are first evident in the invitations. Same sex invitations also frequently include two brides or two grooms as well as symbolic decoration.
  • Wedding Announcements: The announcement is not an invitation to the ceremony or festivities; it is sent to persons–business, school, friends, family– who for whatever reason were not invited or were unable to attend the event. It includes the same names and date as the invitation and sometimes also the names of parents. The announcement is most often used when a wedding is far away, very small or after an elopement. It is not sent until after the wedding, and frequently includes a wedding photo.

WORDING THE INVITATION

All invitations are traditionally sent by the host/hosts of the wedding and reception, whether parents, step parents, other relatives, friends, or the couple themselves. Although stationers and suppliers will have numerous examples of typical wording for most situations, an understanding of traditional wording as well as guidelines for more individual circumstances can be helpful. Military titles are used when the person is a member of the armed forces or serving on active duty with the reserve; all military titles are written in full–no abbreviations.

Green Seeded Garden Herb Wedding Invitation, Forever Fiances

Traditional and Formal Wording

Traditional and formal wording is written in the third person style and printed in black or dark gray ink; “honour” and “favour” usually written in British style; names on invitations are written in full with no initials. The invitation to the ceremony usually does not include an RSVP; numbers in the date of the wedding are spelled out; request RSVP at least two weeks prior to ceremony; all type is centered on the page.

Eco-Friendly Wedding Invitations and Envelopes, Paper and Thread Studio

Informal Wording

Printed informal invitations are written in the first person and reflect the mood of the occasion, whether written by parents or other family members.  Phrases such as “We invite you” and “Please join us” are commonly used.

Informal Invite, Dolce Press

Handwritten Notes

This wording is from parents or from the bride and groom and conveys necessary information in an original, warm, personal style.

Handwritten Invite, Imgspark

Individual Circumstances

Whatever the complications of your family situation, make certain to include all involved parents, and discuss inclusion of new spouses with your families.  If you do include them, name the parents first, then use the phrase “together with” to include the new spouses. If a bride or groom wishes to include the name of a deceased parent, use “the late” in front of the deceased’s name on the invitation. If your professional name is different from your real “formal” name, you may print your professional name in parentheses below your real name. On joint invitations issued by both bride and groom’s families, the bride’s parents are listed first.

Wooden invite made from sustainably harvested trees, Wanart

Cultural Awareness

If you are marrying someone of a different religion or culture, learn as much as you can about his or her heritage and expectations. It is especially important to respect those traditions which are significant to the family and/or are religious in nature. And, yes, some of these practices are reflected even in the invitations–from the appropriate colors of stock and ink to the wording itself. The double invitation–an old European custom with the bride’s family on the left side of the page and the groom’s on the right–is becoming increasingly popular in this country.

Most important: Only you and your partner know the perfect way to celebrate your wedding and respectfully share your happiness with family and friends.  Always trust your instincts!

DIY Invites, Sheknows

Dawn Bryan is the founder and President of The Qualipedia and an authority on gifting, protocol, quality, and conscious choice. She wrote the best-selling book “The Art and Etiquette of Gift Giving” and has taught etiquette and protocol to many celebrities and corporations around the globe, including P. Diddy’s Bad Boy Worldwide Entertainment Group.

“Bringing in the May” and Spring Flowers

Definition: The first day of May which has always been strongly associated with flowers and frequently includes the giving of May Day Baskets.

Provenance: Celebration of May Day began as pagan festivals, celebrating spring and fertility. May 1 was one of the most important holidays of the year for the Druids of the British Isles; they believed that the day divided the year in half. When the Romans came to occupy the British Isles, they brought new traditions. Their early May was devoted to a 5-day celebration called Floralia in honor of Flora, the goddess of flowers. Ancient customs that still survive in various parts of the world include the dawn gathering of blossoms, flowers, and branches;  the decking of and dancing around a maypole; the crowning of the Queen of the May; the Morris Dance (men dancing together in animal costumes); the making of garlands; the hanging of May baskets on the doorknobs of friends and neighbors; washing one’s face with May dew which supposedly has the power to maintain/restore beauty–according to American folklore, girls living in the Ozark Mountains believed that washing their faces with this dew would help them to find and marry the man of their choice.

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May Baskets are not only a celebration of spring but a celebration of giving. The basket filled with flowers–and sometimes other small gifts –is quietly, and supposedly secretly,  placed on someone’s doorstep or hung on his/her door knob. Especially popular among children and young adults.

1. How to Care for Cut Flowers:

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–Because they require a healthy environment, be sure that your container is free from the bacteria that can clog the stem, preventing circulation of water and nutrients. Scrub or rinse containers with mild solution of chlorox bleach before or after each use. Also give your flowers clean well-ventilated air, as smoke and other pollutants will shorten their lives.

–Flowers respond to the temperature of the water they are placed into.  Warm water encourages them to open/grow; and cool water slows their development, adding longevity.

–Always cut stems on an angle while under running water, exposing a larger surface. Use a sharp knife, as snipping stems with a scissors can pinch off the channels through which the water is conducted. When cutting tulips, removing all white portions of the stem will allow better fluid intake.

–Remove all foliage from stems which will be under water, as this will discourage bacteria from forming.

–Flower preservatives can prolong the life of your flowers. Most of them contain ingredients which keep the flowers’ energy level high (sugar), inhibit the growth of bacteria, and lower the Ph factor, enhancing water/nutrient uptake. Follow the instructions carefully.

–Many flower arrangers have their own “tried-and-true” methods of extending flower life. These range from bleach, sugar, crushed aspirin, pinch of salt and baking powder, soda, and copper pennies to various combinations.  Some claim that using hairspray on the blooms will extend their attractive lives.

–Take care when combining daffodils in a bouquet, as they exude a sap that clogs the stems of other flowers (especially tulips) that can cause the other flowers to wilt.  If you do include them, first soak them in warm water with a teaspoon of sugar for at least 12 hours to leach the harmful sap out of the stems.

–Keep flowers away from direct sunlight, drafts and heating/air conditioning vents; don’t set on top of TV; don’t place close to burning candles. They will enjoy being spray misted.

–Every 2 or 3 days give flower stems a fresh cut, clean out the container, and replace the water/solution to increase hydration.

–Remove flowers that wilt early from an arrangement because they give off ethylene gas (used in commercial ripening) which will cause the remainder of the flowers to wilt sooner.

–Mist full strength lemon juice on gardenias to prevent them from browning.

–When using tulips in an arrangement, dip tulips which have reached the openness you desire into beaten egg whites to prevent their opening any further.

2. Wholistic:

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–Health Benefits–The presence of flowers improves emotional health and helps to relieve stress. A team of researchers at Rutgers University explored the link between flowers and life satisfaction. The recently-published study showed that 1. Flowers have an immediate impact on happiness–a universal reaction; 2. Flowers have a long-term positive effect on moods; 3. Flowers make intimate connections, their presence increasing contact with family and friends. The study also concluded that flowers are a symbol for sharing, especially the sharing of space.

3. Tips:

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–When working with gardenias or stephanotis, you can prevent browning by first wetting your hands so that the oil from your skin will not touch the petals.

–If you plan to eventually dry your flowers/arrangement, look for plants that are interesting in shape, texture, or color once dried. Choose plants that will retain their shape and not fall apart or disintegrate.

–If you have no commercial preservative, make your own by placing 1 teaspoon sugar and a few drops of chlorine bleach into the water.

–To straighten bent tulips, wrap the stems tightly in damp newspaper, secure with a rubber band, and stand in lukewarm water with light directly above them for a couple of hours.

–Because tulips continue to grow even after being cut, it is best to change water and cut stems daily.

4.Wacky Facts:

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–The Pilgrims of the New World observed May Day for awhile until Governor John Endicott (a Puritan) ordered all Maypoles burned down.

–May Day in England is a bank holiday; in France, it includes a procession for the Virgin Mary.

–May baskets can be made or constructed of almost anything–paper or plastic cups, oatmeal boxes, cartons, baskets, vases, pitchers, construction paper, grocery store berry baskets, flower pot, small pail, watering can…  Decorated paper cones used as flower containers are called tussie mussies.

–In 2010 Girl Scouts in West Bend, Wisconsin made May Day baskets containing fresh flowers for the surprised residents of local hospitals and nursing homes. It was such a success that they have continued each year.

–Leaving an anonymous May Day Basket is considered “a random act of kindness”.

HAPPY MAY DAY!

ECO-CONSCIOUS ENTERTAINING TIPS FOR EARTH DAY

Entertaining that is eco and socio-conscious as well as healthy  does not have to consist of brown invitations, brown napkins, brown bags, brown rice, and brown breads. It is possible to have a party which is green and glamorous–as well as multi-colored! And to be aware of what you are buying, using, doing and its impact on the environment and on others.

INVITATIONS AND DECORATIONS

Here are some wonderful ideas for your eco-conscious party.  Electronic invites are not only easy, but very environmentally friendly Arranged centerpieces of fresh or dried fruit or vegetables (edible), as well as flowerpots and small trees (reusable), make wonderful spring and summer decorations. Send these gifts home with guests or deliver to a hospital or nursing home Create entirely edible centerpieces, using (takeout) chopsticks skewered with fruits, vegetables, meats, and cheeses Use decorative cloth napkins–or bandanas. Tie them with bamboo, hemp, or raffia Large leaves can become place cards when written on with non-toxic ink Collect wine corks to use as place card holders; slit and insert paint chips or cardboard with guest’s name.

FOOD AND DRINK

Look for foods which are organic (regulated by USDA), biodynamic (sustainable, self-contained system, where everything on the farm is re-used or recycled), and/or sustainable (sustains rather than degrades the environment, and is economically viable).  If at all possible, THINK and BUY LOCALLY. Saves transportation costs, supports local economy, stays fresh longer, and tastes better. Local organic eggs and artisanal cheeses are widely available throughout the year For drinking, serve filtered ice water in pitchers rather than bottles; use organic teas and fair trade coffees; purchase local (if possible), organic wines and liquors. 50 states now produce their own wines. Look for beverages in recyclable glass bottles.  Prepare the meal around one main dish, which incorporates various fresh vegetables and/or fruits, such as gazpacho with various toppings. Prevent waste by purchasing and preparing food in appropriate quantities. Offer at least one dish for vegetarians, which is free of animal fats/products. Barbecue with grass-fed beef and sustainable seafood for better taste as well as greener event.

PARTY FAVORS

For a final eco-chic touch, send guests home with seed packets, bulbs, small potted plants or their own bandanas, soybean or beeswax candles. Homemade cookies, jams, small breads, vinegars, and pickles all lend a nice homey touch.

FUN IDEAS AND TIPS

Combine your party with a Spring Clean-up event for your neighborhood, local park, school or playground, nearby empty or parking lots, or with an exchange or tag sale to help your guests with their spring house and garage cleaning Organize a salt or honey tasting ,which also educates guests about the various ecological and taste choices available For a really special event, purchase and release butterflies indigenous to your area and beneficial to the environment Live music will save electricity, and using your iPod will provide music without lots of gear.  Use beeswax or soy candles and organic soaps in powder room/guest bathroom  Have your event during daylight hours to conserve power For green chic, try recycled cardboard made into everything from vases and bowls to tables and room dividers. Objects made by Liquid cardboard(tm) are 100% recycled and recyclable–even the glue is vegetable.

DON’T FORGET THAT EARTH DAY 2015  is Wednesday, April 22!

SPRING FLINGING

It’s a sport!

It’s a toy!

It’s a yo-yo!

Yes, it’s just a string and a spool! –A spherical spool attached to one’s finger with a cord that is looped around the grooved middle of the spool. When run up and down the cord with skillful throws and jerks, the spool takes positions and does tricks.

It’s been around since ancient Egypt and was played with by Greek youths in 500 B.C. There are reports that Napoleon and his army played with yo-yos just before the Battle of Waterloo. The yo-yo was very popular in the Philippines, and it was a Filipino American, Pedro Flores, who made the yo-yo popular in the United States and the rest of the world in the 1920’s. He sold his company to D.F. Duncan, Sr. who trade-marked the name “yo-yo” and set up his factory making wooden yo-yos in Luck, Wisconsin, which then became the “Yo-yo Capital of the World”.

Contemporary yo-yo culture, however, now includes innovative techniques, sophisticated technologies, large online communities, yo-yo collecting, and international competitions for individuals and teams. Most competitions consist of two parts—compulsory tricks and freestyle. Yo-yo enthusiasts are making efforts to include yo-yoing as an Olympic sport.

Major technological innovations since the 60’s include the automatic return and the ball-bearing yo-yo. Other innovations include the transaxles, free-spinning plastic sleeves, friction pads and O-rings, wide variety of shapes, and materials improvement. A number of yo-yo accessories are available as “after-market” modifications—players buy items, such as ceramic bearings, friction stickers, brake pads, or weight rings, separately from the yo-yo to augment performance over the original model shipped from the factory.

Today’s yo-yo manufacturers feature new materials from titanium to exotic woods; unique names such as Oxygene and Syzgy; and limited editions like “Ride the Void”. Recent innovations include an aluminum body, the auto-return clutch system, and a brake pad response system. China has become the top selling yo-yo market.

How to Select a Yo-Yo:

  • There is no single best yo-yo. Certain shapes and models are better suited to various tricks and to different styles of play, as well as different skill levels.

General Guidelines: Skill Level

  • For Beginner—Select standard fixed axle with a take-apart design (so one can more easily untangle knots) and an auto-return mechanism.
  • For Intermediate—Select transaxle yo-yo, as longer spin times make learning tricks easier.
  • For Advanced—Select ball-bearing yo-yo.

General Guidelines: By Style of Play/Tricks

  • Imperial or Standard—Best for looping, as having weight towards the center gives increased stability in the air.
  • Butterfly—Best for string tricks, as the wide gap makes it easier to catch the yo-yo on the string.
  • Modified—Good for both looping and string tricks, as the weight around the rims creates the extra circular inertia that causes the yo-yo to sleep long.
  • Off-string—this yo-yo requires two hands, as the string is not attached to the yo-yo. The Chinese Diablo is a giant version of this type.

Use:

  • Adjust string according to your height.
  • Find the correct string tension for each trick.
  • Basic yo-yo techniques include sleeping, looping, freehand, and off-string.

Care and Maintenance:

  • Do not overtighten a take-apart yo-yo.
  • New strings are safer and perform better. Replace string when it looks dirty, shows signs of wear, or feels stiff or hard.
  • Help maintain wooden axles by placing a small amount of wax on the last few inches of the axle end of the string.
  • Placing a couple of drops of light oil on a bearing yo-yo will help it to sleep and return better.

Wacky Facts:

  • The yo-yo is said to be the first toy to fly in outer space. In 1985 NASA sent a basic spinning yo-yo on the Space Shuttle Discover to see what effect microgravity would have on it. In 1992 the yo-yo again made its way into space on the Space Shuttle Atlantis.
  • The highest priced yo-yo, signed by Richard Nixon(!) and presented to country music singer and fiddler Roy Acuff at The Grand Ole Opry in 1974, was auctioned off for $16,029.00.
  • In 1968, activist Abbie Hoffman was cited for contempt of Congress for “walking the dog” (a yo-yo trick) during a session of the House Subcommittee on Un-American Activities
  • Many yo-yo en
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